Warm weather

It’s been strange, with the warm weather, we’ve been talking about Mari a lot and posting less… no sightings, not even false ones recently — at least not since the ones we eliminated. With the change in weather, we’ve been talking about the funny warm weather stuff she’d do, like nose bop the bedroom door open to enjoy the air conditioning for a bit (we have a window unit) and then wander back downstairs, leaving the door open of course. The first few times it happened, I blamed Andrew for letting the cold air out, but we figured it out quickly! We’d put ice cubes in Mari’s water bowl, and she’d fish them out and crunch them, leaving bits that’d melt into micro puddles. This weekend, I bought ice cream sandwiches for the first time since she got lost. Of course Mari can’t have chocolate, but I’d let her lick a tiny bit of ice cream off the wrappers — it was our joint treat. She was kind of obsessed with cold things — ice cubes, Frosty Paws, ice cream — for all that she loved to bake outside for hours on end. We’ve also been finding Mari fur again as we’ve been switching out shoes and clothes. It really stuck to everything.

For months, we were sure she was out there, but we’re getting to the point where we just don’t know. It’s easy to be certain when the sightings are solid — when people can describe details like the color of her collar and tags or when she runs up to greet a dog she knows — but the longer we go without definite sightings, the tougher it is. Talking is keeping her alive and present, even if she isn’t here in our house, and it’s also letting us say goodbye a little at a time. We’re so lucky to have adopted such a wonderful little creature, and Mari’s my first dog — first pet of any sort — and I can’t imagine a better companion. The thing is I never had pets growing up because my mom said it was too sad when you lost them — she’d lost a cat for a couple of days and was devastated, and even though it came back that feeling was still there. But Mari’s worth it. I’m so glad we brought her here, where she could become her sassy, smartypantaloons self, that we could teach her games like Find It, and introduced her to squirrels and cats and squeaker toys and blueberries and peanut butter and, of course, bacon.

We still miss you, sol. Hope you’ve got a big stick to crunch, wherever you are.

May 30, 2010

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33 Responses to Warm weather

  1. Renee J says:

    This made me cry. I talk about Marisol all the time to everyone I know. She is so loved. I can imagine how hopeless it must feel sometimes… but keep the love in your heart and she’ll be happy wherever she is :-)

  2. anonymous says:

    Never, never, never, never give up. – Winston Churchill

  3. martha says:

    Read the story from the ARL of Boston about a dog that was separated from its owners for 3 years….It may give you hope, and don’t give up….Remember the dog in New Hampshire that was gone a year….You will get her back

  4. Mary says:

    Marisol will be back. Please know that her army is still out there searching, postering and praying. A woman came up to my husband in Belmont yesterday and read the poster in our side window. She told him she saw Marisol in Winchester about a month ago. She thought it was a fox at the time but when she saw the poster yesterday, she told him she was almost 100% sure it was Marisol. Over the weekend, we’ve talked to people in Medford and Somerville who looked at the poster and said they would keep an eye out for her. The more people who know her story, the better chance to rescue her. Keep the faith :)

  5. Donna says:

    Marisol is so very lucky to have a family that cares so deeply for her. Words can not express how much she is loved and thought about each and everyday!! Positive thoughts and prayers are always with the three of you. Postering goes forward as well as the hope that she will be home soon.

  6. Diana says:

    I honestly can’t imagine how you feel! Please know that there are so many people sending strength to you three, and willing Marisol to show up and to finally be home with you. I’m sure this post was so hard to put on paper, thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

  7. 'Lish says:

    Your story has meant so much to so many people. Marisol has touched all of us. She sounds resourceful and I’m crossing my fingers that one day a switch will go off and she’ll come back home, by instinct. Don’t give up! It’s easier said than done but keep believing:) Love is stronger than we have the ability to know or completely understand.

  8. Connie says:

    My heart breaks feeling how much your family misses its little sol…I know it is hard, but please keep the faith that she will be home soon. She is smart and resourceful and enjoying the warm weather. I think about her every day and pray she will be found safe soon. Take care of yourselves.

  9. Katie says:

    Please, please don’t lose hope. She will be found. It may take some more time, but animals have been lost for years and come home. Stay strong, don’t give up on her yet. :)

  10. Beth G says:

    I remember you once posted reminding the members of Mari’s Army to step back if they needed to, to take care of ourselves.

    I hope you remember to take care of yourselves, too. (not that I’ve given up – I still have the “find Mari” number on speed dial on my cell phone, and Augie and I still keep a lookout for copper pantaloons when we’re in or near the Fells.)

    I hope Mari finds her way home, and I hope you all find peace.

  11. Sherry Weiland says:

    This post made me break out in tears. Please don’t give up hope. Maybe it’s time to try a different approach and let people know where the last sightings were so we can look for her?

  12. bella says:

    I know you must be heartbroken and your faith is waning…but we are still out there looking, hoping, praying right along side you. Have you considered a nighttime surveillance? It can’t hurt. I’m willing to participate/organize. We couldn’t possibly frighten Marisol if we keep to one shift – no comings and goings…

  13. Natalie says:

    I teared up with your post. Thank you for sharing such a wonderful post!!!

  14. Mary says:

    In addition to the possibility of a night-time surveillance or early dawn surveillance (particularly on trash days), how about some more picketing?
    Perhaps we could target town centers, i.e. Lexington, Winchester etc., train stations, shopping malls, and other high visibility areas. We need to get Marisol’s photo and story out there to people who aren’t aware of the situation.

    • bellatrav@gmail.com says:

      I’m with you, Mary. Trash day is a perfect idea! We would only need 2 people at a time for surveillance to keep each other company and safe, especially overnight. I’m in…I also write for Gatehouse Media again, the group that owns Community Newspapers, including the Medford Transcript and would be delighted to write a Marisol story update with her photo to keep word going…I could have it published in several of the local papers…Just say the word!

  15. Jane says:

    All weekend I thought of Marisol in the sun & warmth & hoped she’d be sighted. It’s amazing how much she has touched so many of us who are so busy with our own lives & worries. Last week I spotted a smallish copper dog being walked on leasing in Beverly where I work. I drove by them 4 times checking out the dog but realized it was a he with a completely copper/red face. It made me realize how much I know & care about Marisol and hoping so much she returns home to you.
    Whatever you both decide is best for you, we will all be at your side in support.

  16. Donna says:

    I am up to help in anyway!!

  17. Gail says:

    Like so many others here have noted, this post made me cry. I, too, thought of Mari all weekend while I was in NH, knowing the weather at home in the Boston area was beautiful, sure there’d be a sighting, finally. It was so hard to learn that there’d been nothing. Anindita, while I don’t pretend to know how you and Andrew feel, I can imagine some of the heartache because Mari’s really worked her way into my own heart and under my own skin as a result of reading these posts, seeing her pictures, and being a very proud member of her Army. She matters to all of us, and while of course we’ll continue to look for her and pray and have faith that she’ll be found or through some instinct eventually come home, I do understand that it’s hard for you to keep holding onto that hope in the face of no recent sightings. Whatever happens in the end, she, you and Andrew are a family, and nothing will change that in your hearts. I’m available to help in whatever ways seem to make sense to you at this point.

  18. 724jeanne@gmail.com says:

    I have been following Mari since the beginning. I am sorry I cannot help (I live in Maine). I had a thought today. She’s been missing for 7 months and posters have been up about that long. Have you thought of making NEW posters? Something that looks a little different, to catch people’s eyes again. The old ones have been up for so long that maybe people are ‘seeing’ them anymore. They have become part of the landscape. Just a thought.

    • 724jeanne@gmail.com says:

      * that should have said… “… people are not ‘seeing’ them anymore. Sorry. Good luck.

  19. Emily says:

    This post made me cry too. In all this crazy weather I suddenly thought of Marisol and quickly checked for updates…I will continue to help in any way. You handle this with such grace and strength, it amazes me. Missing you Marisol…

  20. Susanne says:

    Please don’t give up hope yet… The idea of a “new style” of poster seems like a good one… I’m praying that you will have a strong sighting very soon.

  21. Lori says:

    Anindita and Andrew I have been thinking about all of you all day and waited ’til my kids were down to write…After reading your post this morning I gave my dog an extra hug & kiss. I hope you know what an inspiration you and your sweet little Mari are to so many people and I hope we give just a little of that back with our messages of support. Like everyone else, I’m always willing to help and always keep an eye out for her on early morning runs in Melrose.

  22. Nandini says:

    Must be heartbreaking to think about possibly not finding her. It’s always hardest not knowing for sure. Life is strange–maybe she’ll find her way to you just when you try to let go. I hope so.

  23. lizanne says:

    I’ve been following your post for several months. Please don’t give up. I wish I lived closer to help you. I’m in the philly area. My heart breaks for you. You’ve done a great job. I feel she is still out there but just hiding. I just keep praying you find her.

  24. Jane (the other Jane) says:

    I agree with what Nandini wrote. I know from the weeks that Demi was gone that I reached a point where my head was telling me to let go, pray that she was safe and happy, and try and live life without her. Of course that didn’t stop my heart from forcing me to stare into every wooded area I passed in the car (I’m lucky I didn’t cause a few accidents). You guys must know you’ve approached superhuman efforts to get her back, and those efforts may still prove successful, even while you attempt to go on. I guess what I’m trying to say (and I wish I had your eloquence, Anindita!) is that the two don’t have to be mutually exclusive. You are not giving up on finding Marisol just because you’re trying to get on with life. Finding Demi on Christmas Eve was just one example of the many miracles that happen all the time with missing pets. I believe that all your hard work, and that of your army, will be rewarded, but I also respect your and Andrew’s need to do what you can to handle your feelings. If that means posting less, so be it, although like many others I will miss your writings. You have an unbelievable knack for bringing that little dog to life for so many people who have never had the pleasure of meeting her. Good luck and God bless the three of you, and may your little ‘sol find her way home to you.

  25. Sarah S. says:

    This post breaks my heart; you’ve gone through so much. I will continue to look for Mari when I’m in the Fells and will keep your cell number saved…just in case. She’s a smart pup and I still believe she’ll find her way home. My best to you and Andrew.

  26. Meredith says:

    Annindita -
    I know ARL knows what they are doing, but maybe now that you are saying goodbye a little at a time, we could try a different approach?? There have been no sightings for a month, so I dont think we can scare her or make it worse. As kids, when anyone lost their dog, we used to get everyone in the neighborhood to meet in the woods and set up in perimeters wherever the dog had been lost – then we would all just start calling the dog and trying to flush it out. This suggestion probably makes all Mari army readers cringe and everyone will probably send me angry posts as this goes against what the ARL and other professionals have told you, but perhaps stiring her up when so many people are out now in the summer would actually give us a sighting.

    If you dont like this approach, then how about the others’ suggestion of overnight surveillance? I would be willing to set up before dark and just sit there (wherever the last sightings were) in my car for 4 to 8 hours. I am sure plenty of army members would also do this on surrounding streets.

    How about just trying a new strategy for the start of the summer before you give up or fully say goodbye?

    (okay, everyone go ahead and send me angry posts, but even if you disagree, at least this stirs up more thought….and just know I am making these suggestions because I care not because I am being a jerk!)

    • Renee J says:

      I think any suggestion is a good one. Does seem new fresh ideas should be tried before giving up.. I still wonder if you guys have talked to any psychics or intuitives? I know not everyone believes in that kind of thing, but it wouldn’t hurt looking into.
      Also, maybe have a standby team of a few people so that when the next sighting comes in, the handful of people can actively search right away for her or clues or flush her out of the exact area she was spotted…

      I will also help in any way you need. we love her!

  27. 'Lish says:

    I’d suggested the same thing as the comment above, i.e., a pet psychic. I apologize if this suggestion is offensive in any way to you. I don’t even know if I fully believe in that kind of thing but it’s worth a shot, I guess. I emailed a pet psychic several weeks ago, to possibly get in touch with you, but she emailed me back and said that any requests have to be made directly by you. She wasn’t local to you so I don’t know how much help she could’ve been anyway, in the long run. But again, I apologize in advance if suggesting this is offensive to you in any way. That’s not my intention at all.. We just all feel for you, even if we don’t know you. I’m in the Philly area, too. I wish I lived closer to try to help in some way. I even thought about driving to MA on a weekend. I don’t normally do a whole lot of praying but I have been every day, for little Mari. We’re all praying for a miracle for you, and for strength and peace of mind. Best wishes to you, and may ‘LiL Miss come home soon:) Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. (Sorry! Not trying to give you a pep-talk.. We’re all rooting for you.)

  28. T says:

    As someone stated above (yes I read all the comments) their husband was approached by someone in Belmont who believes they saw Mari! She is still out there. Maybe her area has changed and people are not familiar. I know in Daisys case, you mention to people she is still out there and the reaction you get is “oh I thought they found her already” FRESH new signs that are different looking is a great place to start. Maybe another article in the local papers too just to get the word out that she hasn’t been found yet.

    I ache for you both I truly do. Not knowing is the hardest part, but have faith you will find your sweet sol!! Stay positive!!!

  29. Chris says:

    Hi. I have followed your story since it was published in the Globe. Had it not been for that story, I would not know of your plight. I feel honored to “know” Marisol by way of your posts. I check in to the website quite frequently, always with the hope of seeing something positive. As I read your latest post this week, I felt sadness. However, I also felt understanding. It has been a long hard fought battle and even the strongest can become disheartened. Although I live south of Boston, whenever I’m in the the towns that surround the Fells area I keep an eye out for Sol. I have, and will keep, your cell number in my phone just in case. I won’t give up hope, as I know you won’t, but I understand that it gets more difficult as time goes on.

    I’d like to reiterate what a couple posters above said and that would be to try an “animal psychic”. As stated above, I hope the notion does not offend you in any way. I just want to suggest every avenue possible. Each Tuesday evening I listen to a show on Sirius satellite radio channel 107 from 6-8 p.m. Sonya Fitzpatrick The animal communicator. The number for that show is 1-888-410-2102. It’s toll free and I have found i can get through if I call enough times right in a row. It wouldn’t cost you anything but time. If you didn’t get through, or felt you wanted more questions answered than a radio phone call would allow, she does private readings. I looked it up and they are rather pricey, but I think that it could possibly give you the answers you’re looking for. I don’t have much extra income, but would be willing to chip in to help defray the cost. I think peace of mind is worth it. Below is a link to her website if you are interested. Also, please feel free to contact me via my email if you’d like to have the costs of the private reading defrayed. Good luck with your search. Never give up hope. I’ll continue to keep an eye out for her and read any updates you feel able to provide. Thank you again for letting me get to know Sol.

    http://www.sonyafitzpatrick.com/personal-readings.shtml

  30. Beth says:

    I volunteer with Granite State Dog Recovery & am more than happy to participate in a stake out..what ever is needed..GSDR is a great resource..perhaps they might have some fresh ideas that haven’t been tried…

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